Seeing a new place with fresh eyes has a certain charm to it. It is easy to become desensitized from the beauty around you if you are in the same place for too long. A new city, no matter how boring or interesting it may be, allows my mind to focus on the unfamiliar environment around me, offering a relieving break from the typical daily thoughts that I can be consumed by. Whenever I go somewhere new, I find myself noticing so much that I don’t necessarily acknowledge on a daily basis. The simple or extravagant architecture of homes, the street lamps, the trees that bombard the sidewalks or the ones that are barely making a statement in between large buildings. I notice the energy of busy pedestrians being upheld by sidewalks or the waves of serenity in places that are less walked upon. Instead of having a set itinerary, I keep only a general outline of things I want to see in order to leave room for spontaneous adventure. I love crossing paths with people I would have otherwise never met and perhaps, may never again see. I love having conversations with intellectuals, drunks, anti-socials, teenagers, elderly, and everyone else in between. Sometimes conversations take me by surprise and I end up saying things out loud that I didn’t know I had the knowledge to talk about in the first place. Other times, I realize how much more I have to learn. I enjoy letting the spontaneity of the moment whisk me through my journey. I can never be sure where I’m going to end up, but I always come out with a story to tell. 
  This past summer during a cross country road trip from New York to California, I spent one night in Chicago. Towards the end of the evening, I walked around with the intention of venturing into a random bar, though it wasn’t exactly a “happening” night. A group walking by invited me to join them at the bar they were going to. I was being cautious, but the one girl in the group made me feel comfortable enough to join them. As it turned out, every person in this group was awesome. After getting to the bar, one guy came over calling out, “You have to see this” to the rest of the group. We got led to a different room in the bar where about six guys, or so, were having a guitar jam session. Maybe it was the shot of whiskey that warmed my soul or perhaps it was the overwhelming feeling of how awesome this group was that I stumbled upon, but walking into that jam session was transcendent. The vibration of every string being strung entwined throughout my body, massaging its way through the tension it came across, until it made its way to the deepest part of my lungs where it found my breath and manipulated it to its calmest, deepest state. I was happily left in a feeling of awe for the beautiful music that I was being composed in front of me and the series of events that led me to it. My grateful heart was filled with a warm sensation. I realized I really needed to do this kind of thing more often.   
  If you are one to live on the edge or instead take a more timid approach to life, I nevertheless encourage going on adventures that are suited to your own degree and finding your own liberation in being spontaneous. Step outside your comfort zone, even if it is only for a moment. Become a stranger to insecurity and neglect the idea of expectation. The consequence is it just might take you somewhere you’ve never been, to meet people you will never see again, and have an unforgettable experience.  




Random Jam Session- Chicago, IL June 2013



    Some of the scariest things in life can sometimes be the most basic. Starting a new job, getting a different haircut, relocating to a new city, or being the first to say "I love you" can make a person forget what comfort feels like. Even the strongest, most confident individual can feel as if they shrank down to the size of a mouse, given the right situation. I know that feeling all too well. 
    Venturing into a new world makes me the newest member amongst those that have already existed in it. With this entry, I am graciously handed a complimentary ticket to the feeling of vulnerability. The only thing running through my mind is "someone take my ticket, please!!!" Even though I willing walked into this world, my instinctive reaction is to come up with an escape plan. Excuses of why I don't "really" need to be here flood my thoughts. My muscles tighten as if I'm about to enter a boxing match. The flight mechanism in my body is setting off every alarm it is capable of. I feel as though I'm ready to sprint at a record breaking speed. This is exactly the point where I do the hardest thing I can think of doing in that moment: breathe. 
    Dr. Brené Brown has demonstrated through her research that "vulnerability is the core of fear, shame, and struggle for worthiness. It is also the birthplace of joy, creativity, belonging, and love." Okay, so maybe I overreacted a little with that escape plan. Why, then, is being vulnerable so scary? For me, it means I have to acknowledge my imperfections. 
    My most recent feeling of vulnerability comes from my new endeavor of writing. This entailed letting go of my previous, carefully crafted path of becoming a psychologist and starting from scratch.  The world of writing is completely foreign to me, yet I have a very organic love and drive to transform it into my lifelong career. I know in order to enter this world, I have to begin at the bottom while admiringly looking up at all the skilled, well established, and highly respected writers. It is only through actively writing, getting criticized, and learning from mistakes that I will be able to attain the high status of those that I am looking up to. Sir Ken Robinson said, "If you are not prepared to be wrong, you will never come up with original ideas." To be wrong, to be imperfect, to be vulnerable is all necessary to attain success because it means I am making an attempt at the unfamiliar. I cannot arrive at a new destination if I do not embark on a new path. If I utilize the criticism I receive properly, then I know it will lead me somewhere great. It is up to me to maintain the courage to see it through. 

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” 
- Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for"
- Epicurus

    To find a moment everyday to express gratitude for at least one thing in your life would change your life dramatically. Let's look at that mirror again that I mentioned in The Victorious Body. Getting naked is optional this time. Bring your focus on where your heart is. Feel that rhythm in your chest responsible for giving you a fresh new day of life. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have one that works perfectly. If you are amongst those with the good fortune of a healthy heart, be so grateful for it that you can practically feel the gratitude pumping in through your veins and expanding throughout your entire body. What about your eyes that give you the privilege to see the phenomenon of the world around you? Your ears that can translate vibration into beautiful music and conversation? Your lips that allow you to express the emotion of love in the form of a kiss? Be grateful for all that you have even though you may not have it all. Let the experience of having it be the reason you cherish it rather than waiting for the experience of losing it to teach you its value. 

Albert Einstein said, "There are only two ways to live your life. One as though nothing is a miracle. The other as though everything is a miracle." I didn't understand this at first and it wasn't until more recently that I was able to see the truth in his statement. When you are grateful for the world around you and all that exists in it, your perception is changed from seeing the "big picture" to seeing all the little things that are necessary in order for that "big picture" to exist. It is those little things that are often overlooked that are the miracles, like your beating heart. 
This past January, I was fortunate enough to have taken part in a 30 day gratitude quest put together by The Quest for Greatness. Each day I posted a picture (via Facebook and Instagram) of something I was grateful for and wrote a brief description of it. I thought I did a pretty good job appreciating my life prior to this gratitude quest; but the conscious effort of doing it for 30 days straight brought in a new and permanent awareness that I was not quite able to get a full grasp on before. I was living in NYC at the time and the month of January became one of the most beautiful months of my life.  I walked around the gorgeous city of New York with so much love in my heart, noticing what I had never noticed before, reacting to things in ways that surprised me. Suddenly, my dreaded 15 minute walk to the train every morning in the freezing cold changed. It became my time to be grateful for my two legs that gave me the privilege to experience the city on foot and for my strong body that gave me the endurance to work and make a living. When things came up that would normally have upset me, I became quick to let them go because I was focused on the abundance of all that I had to be grateful for. 
    That is the consequence of gratitude. It awakens your heart and refocuses your mind. It calms you the way the sound of the ocean does, yet it energizes you the way watching a sunrise would. In the midst of chaos, in the middle of traffic, after a hard day at work, or simply right now, pick one thing to be grateful for. With all of your heart, with every resonating atom in your body, be truly thankful for it. It will inevitably make you smile. Your entire mood can be shifted by a single expression of gratitude. The choice is always yours. You can let life just happen to you OR you can live it with intention and purpose. Gratitude is your finest tool for enhancing your life. Feel free to utilize it.



**If you're interested in seeing my photos from my gratitude quest, check out my Instagram page here. My gratitude pictures are towards the bottom. Also, you can search #gratitudequest and check out what others posted.**

    Strip your clothes off. Stand in front of a mirror. Scrutinize every inch of your body. Pinch it, grab handfuls of it, jiggle it, flex it. Look at the birth marks, the scars, the cellulite, the veins. Now, stare directly at your body and tell yourself how much you love it. I want you to mean it.
    Seriously.
    Our society is in a constant search for "the secret" drug or workout that can revolutionize the appearance of our bodies in an ungodly short amount of time. Not even if Michelangelo was sculpting our bodies would we have the patience to let him complete a masterpiece. We are fed the image of a "perfect" body in every corner of the media which has worked wonders for the business of marketing. The consequence of this is the majority of people in our society cannot bear to look themselves in the mirror. The truth is, satisfaction of physical appearance will never be reached because when you look for the "imperfections" in your body, you will always find them. I challenge you for the duration of this post to let go of all of your preconceived ideas of fitness and the perfect body, and start with me from scratch.
    First and foremost, LOVE yourself. Roll your eyes at me if you must. Sooner or later you will find this to be as vital (in my opinion, it's more vital) than the weights you're lifting and the protein shakes you're chugging. If you cannot embrace the way you look now, then your chances of attaining your physical goals may never happen because you will never be able to change your body fast enough to satisfy you. This usually results in giving up.
    Second, let go of the aesthetic idea of working out to achieve the body you want. Instead, focus on achieving  the "little victories" of having a stronger, well-balanced, body. For example, this time last year, I was not capable of doing a perfect push-up, a strict pull-up, squat below parallel, or touch my toes in a standing or seated position. I became capable of all of these within a few months of actively working towards each individual physical challenge. The approach I took through my crossfit and yoga practice was incremental. I did modified versions of all the above until I was slowly able to develop the strength and flexibility to do the movements with proper form. It's like watching a toddler walk around holding onto the couch for support and then letting go for the first time as they discover their legs and balance can hold them up for a couple seconds before they fall. Letting go of that couch is a "little" victory towards the ultimate goal of walking, regardless of the fact that they fell. The gratification that comes from gradually excelling through each movement until finally reaching its perfect form is what motivates me to continue to push my body to new limits. The number of "falls" will only make the success of "walking" more gratifying when it happens.
     Third, block out the noise in your head. Take control of your thinking. Doubt and negative thoughts are there to challenge you, to see what you're really made of. These two have no manners and they're rude as hell. They dance their way into your mind and attempt to whimsically seduce you into following them. Acknowledge their existence, shake your head at their rudeness, and lead them out. If you practice this enough times, it becomes automatic. Soon enough, you will have a "Just Do It" mentality with your physical training. Nike did their research.
    Next, thank your plateaus. They are letting you know you are ready to move on to the next level. What you once found difficult and may have caused you some agonizing soreness is now far easier. Be grateful for it. Have the courage to move past it by trying something new. Even the smallest adjustment in what your eating or introducing a new workout can push you through a plateau in no time.
    Finally, be mindful of your body. Give it a break when it needs it. Push harder if it feels good. Don't set a goal to do a handstand if walking on your feet to the corner grocery store is exhausting. Wherever your body is at now is perfect. Start there.
    I was once told me to always have a really nice bottle of champagne in the fridge. The idea: always be ready to celebrate something.
    I love this mentality. All too often, we prepare ourselves for the worst of situations. Who says we can't anticipate the best? What if you lived your life everyday anticipating that something great is about to happen. The demeanor of your entire day would change drastically. Everything from your thoughts, to your mood, to your interactions, would be altered in the most positive direction. You know that feeling you have just after booking a vacation? Let that champagne in the fridge make you feel that way everytime you see it.
    Perhaps you might be thinking if you always anticipate something great happening, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment when things don't go right. I used to fall into this category. I felt like it was easier to assume the worst of situations because then, no matter what happens, it will never be as bad as I thought. If the worst did come, I would be "prepared" for it. Anyone who has existed in this phenomenon called "life," can agree that we can never be truly prepared for some of what life has to offer. What we can control is how much we want these things to alter our life.
    Dr. Wayne Dyer said "Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change." So simple, so profound, so liberating. My fear of uncertainty developed into excitement of the unknown. I stopped seeing negativity in my immediate surroundings and began finding myself surrounded by beauty. In those uncomfortable situations that I once feared the most, I found myself dealing with the best because my mind was clear and looking to get back on the track of optimism.
    Resiliency can happen instantaneously with practice. I found that if you condition yourself until it becomes a habit, then you don't have to try as hard. It becomes your default state. Within this state exists more opportunities to celebrate. So find the courage to let go, maintain the strength to live freely. You just might find yourself popping a bottle of Dom Perginon more often than you think.

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